THE NEED FOR NURTURING

I have just posted another movie on youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwcaQSuf6z0 regarding nurturing because of the excellent response to the first one on that subject. In posting this second movie I realized that in all my writings I have never devoted an essay or column to the subject of nurturing; therefore, I will use this opportunity to address that all-important and relatively ignored (by myself and society in general) function.

In order for life to survive it requires nurturing. Whatever the form of life, it requires sustenance or it will expire. Everything in our solar system requires the absorption of solar energy in order to not lose its vitality and functionality. This energy produces the air, water and food necessary to sustain life. In addition to the material requirements necessary for nurturing, the unseen quality of love also helps to sustain life. The feminine principle provides the love that accompanies nurturing.

The characteristics of the feminine gender function as attributes that enable it to nurture; however, these wonderful and necessary characteristics have become increasingly ignored as society tends to look upon our nurturing requirements as consisting essentially of food, clothing, and shelter. The courts, in determining child support in custody cases, reduce the nurturing requirements of children to adequate amounts of food, clothing, and shelter. Fathers contribute to this viewpoint by claiming that they can nurture as well as the women. They can’t—they don’t even come close—which we will see as we progress through this essay.

We have been created to grow spiritually and in order to experience this spiritual growth we need to be here, and we can’t be here if we are not nurtured. Hence, the propagation and preservation of the species is the paramount concern and function of all life, and nurturing is its primary activity.

The feminine principle is endowed with characteristics that enable it perform the function of nurturing. These characteristics are universal and can be found wherever the feminine principle is involved in the process of nurturing. Mother Earth and the females of all species possess these characteristics, some of which are: accommodation, adaptability, caring, companionship, consideration, cooperation, diplomacy, friendliness, gentility, giving, harmony, industriousness, informative, materialism, nurturing, receptivity, responsiveness, rhythm, visual thinking, and unconditional love.

I think most people will agree that Mother Earth is accommodating, adaptable, nurturing, receptive, responsive, and unconditional in her giving. So are women. These characteristics enable nurturing. These attributes provide sustenance above and beyond the materialistic concept of food, clothing, and shelter. They express love and care.

Mother’s will stay up all night working to bring down the fever of one child and then get up early in the morning to get the other children off to school and the husband off to work. Mothers remember birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, and buy appropriate gifts for these occasions. They decorate the home and provide the social circle to be entertained in it. It is said that a man lives in the home that his wife creates and in the social environment that she develops.

Mothers participate in the PTA, the Cub Scouts, and the Girl Scouts, and become involved in a host of activities that these organizations generate. They spend a lot of time buying just the right food for dinner, just the right belt for her husband’s pants, or the right mittens for her child. A woman’s full-time activity revolves around nurturing.

No man can continually perform in the nurturing manner of a woman. To do so would be contrary to his physical, mental, and spiritual nature. A man is contemplative not responsive, He initiates and is not receptive. His characteristics are opposites of a woman’s.

The nature of a woman’s characteristics endow her with the ability to nurture the race, but they do not endow her with the ability to create the environment and means to conduct this nurturing. They do not endow her with the traits to create a safe, secure, and moral structure in which her nurturing can take place.

There is no such entity as a free and independent feminine anything in this universe. Every planet has a Sun to rotate around; every electron has a nucleus to rotate around, every lioness belongs to a pride and every doe belongs to a herd. The male of all species provides the environment and the means that enables the female to nurture. Ignorance of this fact has brought about the downfall of the family and made the government an ineffective substitute male. This matter will be dealt with in another essay.

For now, let us clearly understand that the feminine principle was designed to nurture. Men are not substitutes for nurturing; they are enablers of nurturing.

E.G.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS REDEFINED

The following is an excerpt from a Glenn Sacks newsletter of October 15, 2008:

California attorney Marc Angelucci scored a tremendous victory today as the Third District Court of Appeal in Sacramento ruled that California’s exclusion of men from domestic violence services violates men’s constitutional equal protection rights.
The taxpayer lawsuit -- Woods. v. Shewry -- was initially filed in 2005 by four male victims of domestic violence.
In 2007, Sacramento Superior Court Judge Lloyd Connelly dismissed the case, ruling that men are not entitled to equal protection regarding domestic violence because they statistically are not similarly situated with women.
Today the Court of Appeal reversed that decision and held:
The gender classifications in Health and Safety Code section 124250 and Penal Code section 13823.15, that provide state funding of domestic violence programs that offer services only to women and their children, but not to men, violate equal protection.

Chuck Correy, President of the Equal Justice Foundation also reported this case in an Email dated October 14, 2008, which I excerpt here:

SAN DIEGO, CA - 00/00/00 - Today the Third District Court of Appeal in Sacramento ruled California's exclusion of men from domestic violence violates men's constitutional equal protection rights.

Harry Crouch, a San Diego child custody coach and President of the National Coalition of Free Men (NCFM), a men's rights organization that filed and backed the plaintiffs, said: "All victims need services regardless of gender. Services should be need-based, not gender-based. This decision can profoundly affect on the equal treatment of victims."

For those who are not familiar with Glenn Sacks and Chuck Correy, they contribute to public awareness of domestic issues, especially as they impact negatively on men and the institution of the family. Glenn does it through his newsletter, radio and television interviews, and through other vehicles that present him an opportunity. Chuck is a well-known attorney and fights these issues in the Colorado courtrooms, has an internet mailing list, and uses other media when available. Both men are indefatigable workers devoted to drawing attention to what they perceive as wrong regarding legal domestic issues. They are both enthusiastic about the Court of Appeal decision as it might serve as a milestone for future domestic violence issues in other states.

I would be remiss if I did not acknowledge Harry Couch’s efforts here, for his perseverance has been the force that made this legal decision possible.

Having acknowledged the efforts that went into this case and allowed that the Court of Appeal decision could have far reaching effects, my feelings about the event are less than enthusiastic; they have not even reached the level of tepidity. I could never express enthusiasm for a system that makes the government the head of the relationship between a man and a woman; that reduces man to a wage earner—a donkey on the treadmill of production—while it takes over the responsibility of the propagation and preservation of the species.

Western thought which is feminine always looks outside of itself for help in resolving it issues. It calls upon the government, religion, money, and the medical establishment for its survival. For the most part Western man has a Biblical orientation but he seems not to understand its message. Regarding government Jesus said to render unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s and unto God that which is God’s. He worked outside of the religious structure. Regarding money he said, “What does it suffer a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul?” We have gained the whole world and lost our own souls. Regarding the medical establishment, Jesus healed every form of sickness brought to him and told us greater things than these we could do. With all these directions Western thought still relies outside of itself for resolution all of its issues. Paul said, “There is no single gift that you have not received,” but this message still has not sunk into the Western psyche, which is feminine and wants to be cared for.

This inability to do for ourselves has permeated the national consciousness. We beg to be enslaved. We want universal health care, universal education, a right to a home and a job. We can’t change or initiated anything anymore. I have referred to ground zero as the true symbol of America—a large vagina. For years the New York papers have contained editorials asking why can’t we get an erection. The reason we can’t get an erection is because vaginas don’t get erections. Regarding the men—this is the land of Viagra—we can’t get it up.

In order for any system to function there can only be one authority. There is only one God, one Sun in the Solar system, one captain of a ship, and one head of a family. I elaborated on this concept in an eight minute length movie on youtube, which can be seen on “elder george patriarchy part 2.” The one authority in American life is the government, not the man. The IRS permits the filing of head of household tax returns by two or more homosexuals living together or by two or more lesbians living together, but not by a man living with his wife. That’s something to reflect upon. A greater reflection is to wonder why Western man accepts this situation.

Whether it’s Joe Biden’s Violence against women act or the ruling of the court of appeals case mentioned in this article, they both verify that man is no longer the head of the household; the government is. I cannot be enthusiastic about any event that takes away form man his natural and ordained rulership and reduces him to a work unit.

For those who don’t like being reduced to a donkey on the treadmill of production, who are uncomfortable with Western style emasculation, and who believe that family should be the focus on society and that it can only come about by male leadership and authority, Men’s Action to Rebuild Society offers you a vehicle for change. To make use of this vehicle requires a commitment to discard conventional thinking and assert your manliness. Are you up to it?

LOVE GOD AND BE KIND

All the great spiritual teachings that have been handed down to us can be distilled into the words Love God and be kind.

Jesus said, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your mind, and love your neighbor as yourself.” Hillel, the great teacher of the Talmud when asked by a man to tell him everything he needed to know about the Talmud in the length of time he could stand on one foot replied, “Don’t do to another what you wouldn’t want another to do to you, the rest is just commentary.” The essence of all spiritual teachings is to enable us to love God and be kind. The deepest thinking theologians and the most enlightened masters can do no more than love God and be kind, nor can priests and monks in monasteries throughout the world do more than love God and be kind.

Ritual and tradition do not determine the righteousness of man. The Koran states, “Righteousness does not consist of whether you face East or West.” Nor does it depend on which day is considered the Sabbath, for East and West and one day or another day are relativities based on the movement of the Sun. Every moment in time is holy. Every place in God’s universe is holy. Every person is holy. We are a holy people standing in a holy place, at a holy time. Now. Right now. The only difference between the next person and ourselves is how we manifest our holiness—how we manifest our kindness.

To those who love God and exhibit kindness all things shall be made known and all power given. Fear and anxiety do not rest in the mind of the man who loves God; nor does envy reside in the heart of he who is kind. The man who loves God and acts kindly also gives generously to others for he knows that he has everything. Spiritual scriptures advise us to live life abundantly in the sense that when we love God and act kindly we have complete abundance. Giving to others is merely sharing the infinite abundance that God has bestowed upon us. God speaking through the prophet Jeremiah said, “I have given you everything.” St. Paul said, “There is no single thing that you have not received.” The Koran states, “All is from God.” The Bhagavad-Gita, The Tao, and the teachings of the Buddha all state that God has given us everything. Having received everything from God it is only natural that we should love him and in turn be kind to others.

This understanding varies greatly from Western thought which calls for earning as much money as possible and keeping as much as we can. We teach our children to go to school, get an education, find a job, make some money, and be somebody. We teach them to amass money and put it somewhere where it will work—where the money will make more money. Yet those whose lives depend on making money to make money do not seem to exhibit happiness. A look at the photos of stock traders after a sharp decline in world markets whether on Wall Street, Germany, Japan or in other trading locals throughout the world will show them looking shaken, demoralized, stunned, and filled with anxiety. Are they without food, clothing, or shelter? No. They have lost some vaporous commodity called wealth measured by a man made gauge called money. They worship a god called mammon and their lives bounce from euphoria to depression, from exaltation to angst. If only they would love God and be kind.

A society that worships the accumulation of material things cannot be kind. Consequently it abuses and institutionalizes its own. America has 2.4 million men in living in cages (in prison), it has 3.6 million senior citizens living in poverty, and a half million children living in foster care. 24 million children go to bed at night in a home without a father in it. Children are placed in day care centers as soon as they can walk, and the rate at which parents abandon their children by dropping them off at hospitals has reached unprecedented levels. Why can’t we care for our fellow man, our aged, and our children? We’re too busy accumulating material things and fighting to hang on to them. We have torn down the natural patriarchal structure designed for the propagation and preservation of the species and supplanted it with a societal structure designed for self-indulgence. Family has been destroyed in our quest to obtain wealth. We are not God focused and have become unkind not only to others, but also to ourselves.

Our lack of kindness extends to the environment as well. Nature does not make waste. All of nature gets recycled. Only man makes waste. The materialistic development of the earth has created waste heretofore undreamt of. We have made waste of plastics, highly refined metals, and the byproducts of power generating plants. Our waste is engulfing us. The generation of this waste is not done by kindness; it is done by an ignorance of environmental balance coupled with the desire to acquire material things. The pollution caused by petrochemicals dumped in the air, on the land, and in our waterways is further evidence of our ignorance of the environment and lack of kindness to the earth that sustains our life. A person who loves God will love all creation and will not abuse it. Western thought has caused the desecration of the earth.

Western thought has developed a system of education whether from pre-kindergarten to the most prestigious universities, that focuses on the world that man—especially Western man—made and ignores the world that God made. If we love God we will study and live in the world that God made. Western thought loves the works of its own hand and ignores the works of the hand of God. Western thought does not teach to love God and be kind. It motivates people to be self-indulgent and selfish.

There is no need to be angry or resentful of the abuse that Western thought has rent upon this earth. The universe always operates in accordance with the divine order. Just as the body rejects toxins, the earth rejects pollutants, and the spirit rejects that which is not beneficial to the growth of the soul. All that is not in harmony with the spirit and nature will pass. It always does. Those who worship wealth and the material world look toward the outside. Those who do not have material wealth—either by design or circumstance—look within. The kingdom of God is within and endures, whereas the material world passes. So it is those who are meek—those who have learned to love God and be kind—who shall survive and inherit the earth.

To express anger and hatred towards our fellow man is to not understand the nature of the functioning of the universe, nor does it indicate a love of God. All inappropriate action (which we tend to call evil or sin) results from ignorance. If we knew better we would do better. We can only do that which we understand. The ignorance of Western thought is that it does not understand the universal principle of gender from which all activity originates. It is imbalanced, has a feminine materialistic orientation and lacks the masculine attributes necessary for survival and growth; consequently it is imploding. This society will pass and a more enlightened society will spring up that will also have its lessons to learn but will bring us closer to loving God and being kind.

Loving God and being kind cannot be done passively. We speak of “acts of kindness” and “acts of love.” Men’s Action to Rebuild Society calls for action. It calls for rebuilding society. It projects its kindness by presenting the natural patriarchal structure and way of life in a readily understandable manner so that humankind will become empowered and live more harmoniously.

If you believe that family is the fundamental unit of all life (patriarchy is family) and want to express your kindness by supporting efforts to create a family renaissance you can do this by contributing your time, talents, and treasure to Men’s Action. Your acts of kindness will help enable it to increase its outreach to humankind. Whatever your decision, always remember to Love God and Be Kind.